Can attest to this. Being tall has always helped me compensate for my extremely weird personality. Nobody pays attention to the insane sh*t you’re saying when you’re towering over them like a handsome marble statue
The dating scene has followed the same trend as the economy - the top players have never been better off, while the average person might be headed in the direction of being worse off.
“I generally try to avoid this but I’m already married and would my wife really consider leaving somebody with nearly 1,000 Substack subscribers? Does she think we grow on trees?” Was also hilarious 😂
I thinks there’s more pp for men then there is for women, first because for them, there isn’t much concomitant hatred/jealousy or negative associations , and 2, I think women don’t compartmentalise men’s physical attractiveness like men do for women, in other words an attractive man won’t be objectified as much as an attractive woman, there’s more halo effect for men. 3 there’s more pp for them also in terms of how long it lasts in their lives. So in terms of quality of life overall, if I had to choose between being an extremely beautiful woman and just a fairly handsome man ? Number 2 by far !
Although I think in both cases, it depends how attractive you are. It’s probably best to be sneaky hot, not enough to be disliked but enough to still get by.
Kind of like a Zoe Deschanel / Joseph Gordon-Levitt type
Yea, tbh i think the way we look at attractiveness in general is rationalised in distorted ways, not even in the sense of « everybody’s beautiful », no even in the « 1-10 scale » it doesn’t work. Even « average » doesn’t work. Imo, there’s another model or framework underlying how people perceive physical beauty, one that’s probably not linear like 10,9,8 etc.
I tried to design a system to decipher this using the most advanced algorithms.
I put body cams and heart rate monitors on men and women of all ages and have a life feed of their biometric signals.
With this I built a predictive engine.
However, unfortunately once people started asking questions it turns out this violates several privacy laws, mostly related to data compliance so I am now in GDPR jail cell.
I was just talking to a friend about a male influencer who says the most heinous stuff but is extremely handsome, and how I can’t help but find him endearing and lovable in a way I never normally would! And you’re right, no sane woman would leave a man with a 4-digit Substack following.
I meant it broadly, not just one thing. Anything we consistently give attention to (people, habits, content, even thoughts) can shape how we think over time.
Fantastic article - highly enjoyable. Although in light of everything recently about 'the manosphere' your stat on the 90% of men being left to fight over the remaining 50% of female attention, this takes on a slightly more chilling note. Bella Mackie has written a similar article; albeit about her husband; Radio DJ Greg James - there is clearly a lot to this.
Hi Claire, thank you for taking the time to read and comment, I’m glad you enjoyed the article.
In a recent article this notion came up again since every woman in New York seems to be complaining about the lack of men in the city, while plenty of men can’t seem to get any women to want to commit either.
I am the fabled 5'11 and have almost 3000 substack subscribers. Unless you own land, I will now await delivery of your wife.
In a surprise twist she did leave me after I published this article.
Only 10,000 subs and up does it for her.
mine left me after I failed to grow my Instagram following. maybe we should link and build our accounts together to avoid further marital humiliation
We hired Goldman Sachs to advise us on strategic options
Can attest to this. Being tall has always helped me compensate for my extremely weird personality. Nobody pays attention to the insane sh*t you’re saying when you’re towering over them like a handsome marble statue
True I feel like tall guys can get away with having a weirder personality, there’s a SNL sketch with Sabrina Carpenter about this
It’s definitely a thing. A friend of mine is 6”7 and can get away with murder.
It must be difficult for you to only get the praise for your looks and not all the very intelligent stuff you say.
The dating scene has followed the same trend as the economy - the top players have never been better off, while the average person might be headed in the direction of being worse off.
The Power Law has moved beyond Venture Capital and Publishing and now the rich (handsome) have too much to eat while everyone else is starving.
“I generally try to avoid this but I’m already married and would my wife really consider leaving somebody with nearly 1,000 Substack subscribers? Does she think we grow on trees?” Was also hilarious 😂
As you can imagine, she was thrilled by that line.
I thinks there’s more pp for men then there is for women, first because for them, there isn’t much concomitant hatred/jealousy or negative associations , and 2, I think women don’t compartmentalise men’s physical attractiveness like men do for women, in other words an attractive man won’t be objectified as much as an attractive woman, there’s more halo effect for men. 3 there’s more pp for them also in terms of how long it lasts in their lives. So in terms of quality of life overall, if I had to choose between being an extremely beautiful woman and just a fairly handsome man ? Number 2 by far !
You raise good points @Maudite femmelette .
Although I think in both cases, it depends how attractive you are. It’s probably best to be sneaky hot, not enough to be disliked but enough to still get by.
Kind of like a Zoe Deschanel / Joseph Gordon-Levitt type
Yea, tbh i think the way we look at attractiveness in general is rationalised in distorted ways, not even in the sense of « everybody’s beautiful », no even in the « 1-10 scale » it doesn’t work. Even « average » doesn’t work. Imo, there’s another model or framework underlying how people perceive physical beauty, one that’s probably not linear like 10,9,8 etc.
I tried to design a system to decipher this using the most advanced algorithms.
I put body cams and heart rate monitors on men and women of all ages and have a life feed of their biometric signals.
With this I built a predictive engine.
However, unfortunately once people started asking questions it turns out this violates several privacy laws, mostly related to data compliance so I am now in GDPR jail cell.
we forget how repressive something like an ethics department is to the average male nerd 😔 free my man Ben saltiel
Pretty male privilege is absolutely real.
CNN is on 24 hours a day and not once do they bring this up!
LOL "This is likely why I never heard back from Blackstone"
I was just talking to a friend about a male influencer who says the most heinous stuff but is extremely handsome, and how I can’t help but find him endearing and lovable in a way I never normally would! And you’re right, no sane woman would leave a man with a 4-digit Substack following.
We appreciate your honesty.
4 digit Substack followings is the new doll face
You are crazy Ben, and we like it.
I’m trying to reach eccentric.
Regular Substackers are crazy, rip accounts like yourself are eccentric.
What you repeatedly consume eventually influences how you think.
Choose carefully.
Is this in response to attractive men, coffee, alcohol or my writing ?
I meant it broadly, not just one thing. Anything we consistently give attention to (people, habits, content, even thoughts) can shape how we think over time.
Fantastic article - highly enjoyable. Although in light of everything recently about 'the manosphere' your stat on the 90% of men being left to fight over the remaining 50% of female attention, this takes on a slightly more chilling note. Bella Mackie has written a similar article; albeit about her husband; Radio DJ Greg James - there is clearly a lot to this.
Hi Claire, thank you for taking the time to read and comment, I’m glad you enjoyed the article.
In a recent article this notion came up again since every woman in New York seems to be complaining about the lack of men in the city, while plenty of men can’t seem to get any women to want to commit either.
https://bensaltiel.substack.com/p/whats-happening-in-sf-and-nyc-in?r=dnvri
This is so good!!! Thank you so much, Ben.
“During my time as a male” made me laugh. Great article.
I'm glad you liked it!
Thank you for taking the time to read and comment.
I copied this article into trad AI and it said that any consciousness of visible appearance in a man is gay. Now what do we do?
Meet up later?
I feel like his team missed an opportunity